Wedding Planner 101: Remarriages and Second Weddings

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An estimated 40% of the weddings held in any given year have at least one partner who has been married before so it's certainly something you can expect to encounter in your wedding planning business. 

Second weddings tend to be unique depending on the circumstances.  Are there children involved?  How old is the couple?  Is this a second wedding for both the bride and groom?  A couple may be concerned about wedding rules and etiquette but what is most important is that a couple chooses a ceremony that feels right to them.  

When a working with a couple getting remarried or getting married for the second time, there are a few things they may want to consider.

  •  Maintaining sensitivity to the unique dynamics of the family is a must. If there are children involved, they should be the first to hear the good news.  It is also proper to inform a former spouse of plans when children are involved.

  • If it is the bride's second marriage, the traditional formal announcement is not made.  If it is the bride's first marriage and the groom's second, then a formal announcement IS made. 

  • If the wedding is a first wedding for the bride, and the parents are able, traditionally they would pay for the wedding otherwise the couple may choose to split the cost of the wedding.

  • If the couple has young children, they may want to find a way to incorporate them in the ceremony, this could be as a member of the bridal party, flower girl, ring bearer, or adding in a vow to child(ren) as part of the ceremony after the traditional vow exchange.

  • If it is the bride's second marriage, a semi formal or informal wedding is usually chosen.  An exception is made if the bride did not have a large formal wedding the first time or if this is the first time wedding for the groom. 

  • Brides may opt to forgo the classic white gown and choose a non-traditional hue or a fun cocktail dress for less formal event, although if she chooses a classic style to symbolize a new beginning that can be beautiful too!

  • When planning a small ceremony with only a few close relatives and friends in attendance, printed invitations may not be necessary.  If the ceremony will be a large one, printed invitations are expected.   

  • Couples may want to register for gifts and that's okay, it is customary to give a gift when a couple gets married. They may want to focus on just items that are important to them or experiences, as they typically already have the basics.

  • Increasing in popularity is a small intimate wedding for family and close friends, followed by a much larger celebratory formal reception.  In this case a formal invitation is sent to those invited to the reception with a small enclosure card for the ceremony to those who are invited to both. 

Regardless of the circumstances of the past, a wedding is a reason to celebrate!  Encourage the couple to worry less about "rules", and focus on customizing the ceremony to reflect their desire and personalities to create a memorable event!

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5 Qualities You Need To Make It As A Wedding Planner

 

If you want to be a professional wedding planner we can help you.  But type of person makes a great wedding planner? We asked our expert Nancy Tucker to tell us what personal qualities a wedding planner needs for a successful business.

Your heart has gotta be in it.
First you have to want to become a planner for the right reasons.  If you are in it for the money, don’t hold your breath.  Volumes of “want to be’s” appeared on the scene after the Movie “The Wedding Planner” hit the screen.  They saw the movie or went to a wedding and became enamored with idea of going to a wedding every weekend. Of those numbers few remain because they did not get into it for the right reason.  

Become a people person.
It does not matter how much of a “professional” you are if you don’t have compassion and consideration for others you will kill your business.   Case in point, I had one bride who chose to use a famous photographer because he had shot an iconic American photo.  The day of the wedding he was pushing guests and rude and inconsiderate of guests.  I never worked with him and eventually the bride told him he had done enough and he could go.  So even though his reputation preceded him, he was not wedding photographer material because he wasn’t a people person.

An eye for detail.
Next you need to be detail oriented and able to keep detailed records for several brides at a time.  This doesn’t mean you have to be so OCD you alphabetize your spices, it means you hold all of the pieces of the puzzle that make that bride’s day, so you better not be missing a piece.

Networking skills.
Then you need to know the vendors available in various categories.  It is extremely important to know professional caterers who are able to work with the low budget as well as the sky is the limit bride.  You will be recommending options to your clients based on their budget and personality.  Most importantly is learning the venues around you.  You need a point of contact at the venue, know what options are available, can you do any outside ceremony if desired and is there a plan B if the weather doesn’t cooperate.

A professional attitude.
It's important to know when you need to bite your tongue or speak your mind in different situations.  Many vendors have been left with bad feelings toward Professional Wedding Planners because of the hobby planner who came in wielding the sword only to have nothing work properly and leaving the burden on your caterer and your venue manager.  Your assurance and perfect performance are the only way to take down the shield they feel toward you.

Once you have come up with these basics you can use the knowledge from your Certification Training and you will learn something new at every wedding.  The walk into the fire is much better when you have the know how and confidence to put the fires out.

 

What People Are Saying About Us

You want to be a wedding planner... but where do you start?  
How do you get certified to be a wedding planner?  What are the best wedding planner certification courses?

You have big dreams but you also have big questions.

Weddings Beautiful courses go beyond the basics, and are designed to give you the tools and the confidence to pursue your dreams. Wedding planners around the world have earned the CWS title with our online course.  What are they saying about Weddings Beautiful? Well, here's a little feedback from Weddings Beautiful Certified Weddings Specialists:

 

"I would like to take this opportunity to express my sincere gratitude in guiding me to finish this course. I know it took me a while to complete it but I really appreciate all your encouragement, understanding and patience. I would love to meet all of you one day and rest assured that everything that I have learned in this course will be used to further establish the wedding industry all around the world. Again, I thank you from the bottom of my heart."
J. Dela Cruz 

"Weddings Beautiful has given me clear, creative, and compelling information that is helping me turn my passions into a career and letting my gifts shine! The training course has enabled me to focus my creative spark to help others realize their wedding visions."
Janel B. Keen, Vivid Expressions

"I have been extremely happy and satisfied with each lesson of the training course. I have not only learned about the wedding industry, but also how to better conduct the everyday life of my business. The assignments go over everything you need to know about how to become a successful wedding planner and how to be a true professional."
Tina Zabetakis, Wedding Dreams & Party Themes

 

"The training course was great. It was extremely insightful and informative. I don't think I could have learned more anywhere else. The staff at Weddings Beautiful has been more than helpful when I have questions about an upcoming event or a concern with my business. Keep up the great work!" 
E. Murdock

"Your course has met all of my expectations. From the chapter on ‘Time’ to ‘The Ultimate You,’ I have found pearls of wisdom that reinforce my beliefs and ground my eyes to areas of my life and personality that need polishing. Thank you for providing a program that will help me move forward in my business with greater confidence and insight." 
L. Bathgate

"The training course is a detailed offering of tremendous knowledge on wedding planning. There were areas that I had never even considered when working with a couple, and they have helped me sell my services. Whenever I've had a question, I can call WB, email, or fax, and get a quick response."
S. Lyons

"Unequivocally, I was impressed with the Weddings Beautiful course. I’m grateful to WB for its hard work to provide small businesses like mine the correct tools to ensure success.
Thank you for offering a program that so aptly enables the fulfillment of a personal dream.” 
K. Dryden

 

"The lesson on ‘Mental Power’ really set my mind to work. I feel like I am revved up, and ready to go. Thank you for the mental stimulation, and making me hungry for more." 
C. B. Cunanan
 

Whether you're dreaming of being your own boss, making a career change, or advancing your business, Weddings Beautiful will be with you every step of the way.  What are you waiting for? Enroll today.

Why Choose Weddings Beautiful

You're excited to start your career as a wedding planner but you aren't sure where to get your certification. There are many programs available for becoming a certified wedding planner and it may be hard to know who to trust to give you proper training and support for your business. We believe one of the things that sets Weddings Beautiful apart from other programs is our history.

Weddings Beautiful was founded in 1968 with the vision of Gary Wright, to provide quality education and support to aspiring wedding planners worldwide. Weddings Beautiful currently has two certification programs, a membership association and licensees in Japan, China, Mexico, Africa, Singapore, Malaysia, Indonesia, Ecuador, Paraguay, and the Caribbean. The course is available in English, Spanish, Japanese, Chinese and French.

The Certified Wedding Specialist course was first offered in 1954 as part of the National Bridal Service, America’s first national association of bridal consultants and wedding related businesses. In 1968, the course was adapted to the training of wedding planners and coordinators. Since then, Weddings Beautiful has been providing professional home study training, recognition and support to individuals that have or desire to have a successful wedding planning business. The 18-assignment course is designed to educate you on becoming a successful and professional wedding planner. When you have completed and passed all assignments, you will receive the CWS title and a Certified Wedding Specialist certificate.

The Certified Wedding Planner program was developed in 2008 for the established wedding planner who would like to add the CWP certification to their credentials. To qualify for this program, you must have been in business as a wedding planner for at least two years and performed a minimum of ten weddings. This certification distinguishes the most professional planners from the rest.